"She needed a hero so thats what she became." So often we expect our purpose to knock on our door while we banging so hard at the same wall we want the door to to appear at. So often we expect a phone call from God regarding our lives after he has showed us so many signs and opportunities, all we need to do is get up and grab them. So often we wait for that 'person' to come fix what is wrong, but perhaps its time to stop feeling sorry for yourself, take YOUR life into YOUR hands and become your own hero of your story. So often the story starts with you having to stop complain and just get up. Get up today. I dare you. WATCH THIS>> You wont regret it. So today I just wanted to say thanks.
When I started this blog, come to think of it now, I am not exactly sure WHY?!. Perhaps to express myself, let others realize that you cannot sweep your struggles or mental disorders under the rug, even though they go unnoticed by those that do not understand. You allowed to feel, you allowed to admit to yourself something is wrong and I wanted to let this blog trigger those realizations and manifest into a voice. A loud voice. I know I didn’t start this with the hope and expectation to get comments like “wow you inspire”, or, “this blog has really helped me”, I didn’t even expect others to open up to me. But with the few messages I have received I would like to say thanks. I have not conquered this, I just know that at the end of the day I still choose life over death, so that makes us victors of the day. I have my bad days and when I receive those short messages from some of you, you just lift me up. You touch the places that are sometimes dormant, thank you. Sometimes I go through seasons in my life where I too am tired, feeling totally used up, and then someone writes to me, and it just gives me hope. It motivates me to continue this blog and to continue pushing forward. You too help in my healing. Thank you. She's the places that
she has a desire to visit. She's the pieces of quotes that are plastered in ink in her favorite books. She's the road trips she hopes to go on. She's the beautiful characters that mesmerizes her in her favorite books. She's full of dreams, and i hope they one day come true. -Alexa Evangelista So i would like to start something interactive on my blog. You anonymously send me a message on weebly or email
[email protected] May it be something you struggling with, something you have overcome, something you are grateful for, anything you feel you need to share that you cannot easily and openly share with others. It will remain anonymous but people will be able to comment and offer you some hope and guidance. We as a community of people that have our struggles, but choose to overcome and become victors every single day need to stick together and be there for one another. However, sometimes we stuck, we feel we are drowning and i would like to create something on this blog to remind you that you not alone. NOONE is alone in their struggles!!! PLEASE: send me a message send me a email or i am going to start a forum called "Not alone" at the top and i am praying that you would be brave enough to share your stories. This blog is here to inspire and help, but what if we started coming together. Two heads are better than three. Three better than four. Thank you I am sure many of you will agree, these days our generation is finding it increasing difficult to know what they want to do with their lives. I then beg to question, "will some of us ever know what we really want to do!!!" Some of you are fortunate enough to figure it all out at a early stage, pursue and be happy in with what you do. For others like me, we are lost, forever trying to just figure out our passions, purpose, and with a bit of rationalization...."what is it we want to do with our lives?" In grade 10 i was set on the idea that i wanted to be an architect. People had put ideas in my head of how the profession would be, some ideas accurate/ others not. After a long process of applying to study, i got in and pursued architecture. I must say i did complain a lot about it to my mom, it turned out to be a lot different as to what i thought. None the less i had my eyes set on getting my degree and perseverance had luckily always been a very good quality of mine. After 2 years i had a mental break down, got sucked in by this horrible disease known as depression, and lost all sense of purpose and passion. There was no point to life anymore. Why would i then want to do anything if in my mind i was not planning on living very long? Its been a rough journey, 3 years EXACT from that first break-down, and as i am starting to heal, even though i still struggle with having a sense of purpose and passion, i still cannot reach a conclusion as to what i want to do with my life. Before i was diagnosed with clinical depression, i knew life was about finding a job, being secure, making money so that i wouldn't have to just "survive", AND I KNEW that even though what i chose to do would perhaps not make me very happy, i had the skills to persevere and would have to just "DEAL WITH IT." My journey has completely changed my perspective. NOW i know, i want to find something that will make me happy. I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY AND EXCITED TO WAKE UP EVVVVVERY MORNING AND KNOW "YESSSSS!" today is going to be a great day. I LOVE WHAT I DO! Yes with every purpose or job comes the bad and the good, i have accepted that not every day will be a happy day, but as i said my perspective now has changed so much as to 8 years ago. However, if you want to be happy, you cannot ignore the financial implications of what you choose to pursue.You might love what you do but earn so little that the financial struggle ends up making you miserable. You might choose a job which is "okay", not really feeding the soul", but you know you will have money and will be able to lead a very comfortable life. So how will we ever know what we want to be, pursue, do with our lives if there is all these things we have to take into consideration?? I do not know. in fact i have no answers. However, i recently came across this video. It touched me very deeply as i even ended up with tears in my eyes. Let me know what you think!? This is a amazing book. I have read it 5 times already and i am on my 6th. As stated: bitch means simply “Bitch (noun): A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.” During the course of the book there are a 100 attraction principles and i thought i would share some with you. Some made me think, others put things into great perspective, others i have practiced and THEY WORK, and some are needed as a reminder during almost every relationship, or just before it becomes something more. ENJOY! 1. Anything a person chases in life runs away. 2. A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her. 3. If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it. 4. The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him. 5. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom. 6.A bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then..he sets out to trap her in his. 7.He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner. 8. If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take him time to appreciate who she is. 9. Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it. 10. When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything. 11. Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact. 12. Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery. 13. Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves. 14. A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life. 15. You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.” 16. The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself. 17. The relationship may not be right for you if you find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless. 18. When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention. 19. A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you. 20. When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don’t nag, he deals with the problem. 21. Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun. 22. Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he’ll pay even less attention to your feelings. 23. When a man falls in love, suddenly he’ll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He’ll do things for this woman he wouldn’t have done for anyone else. 24. The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be. 25. If you make it too obvious that you’re excited to get something, some people will be tempted to dangle a carrot in front of your face. 26. If he doesn’t give you a time, you don’t have a date. 27. A man feels he’s won, or conqured a woman, when she eats out of the palm of his hand. At which point, he begins to get bored. 28. A “yes” woman who gives too much sends the impression that she belives in the man more than she believes in herself. Men view this as weakness not kindness. 29. Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them. 30. He simply won’t respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him. Lately i have been so scared. Scared for my future. Scared because of my current relationship with a guy. Scared when i have my "off" days, scared because my only friend, my best friend, is leaving soon for a job which is hours and hours away. Then i came upon this video. It didn't take my fears away, but at least put things into perspective. Fear robs us of our dreams, of amazing possibilities, it steals from us, it takes away, it leaves us crippled with a deep and dark loss, an abyss, a pit of nothingness. “Promise Yourself
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”” — Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them |
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