Sometimes things just don't go the way we want. We get fall and it feels like getting up is impossible. We get tired, we loose faith, we feel weak. YOU are the solution to turning things around. In order to overcome the challenges you facing. Do not give yourself a volunteer pass to become a victim because of what you facing. Every day you have the opportunity to write a new page in the life of your story. You cannot choose the circumstances that surround your life but you can choose how you respond. Be the kind op person who overcomes obstacles by tackling them in faith, instead of tiptoeing around them in fear. Stand up and in your weakness find your strength.
Sometimes things just don't go the way we want. We get fall and it feels like getting up is impossible. We get tired, we loose faith, we feel weak. YOU are the solution to turning things around. In order to overcome the challenges you facing. Do not give yourself a volunteer pass to become a victim because of what you facing. Every day you have the opportunity to write a new page in the life of your story. You cannot choose the circumstances that surround your life but you can choose how you respond. Be the kind op person who overcomes obstacles by tackling them in faith, instead of tiptoeing around them in fear. Stand up and in your weakness find your strength.
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About 3 weeks ago, my sisters friend of 16 committed suicide by jumping off the 8th story of their apartment building. Whilst this was happening, i had to go to a clinic for 3 weeks as i was feeling a lil flat and had to regulate my new medicine. There i met a lady by the name Pauline. Me and her became best friends and i now see her as my fairy god mother. Kind. compassionate. funny. Her daughter also suffers from mental illness and started wanting to commit suicide at a very early age. This pressure, and fear based relationship is one of the reasons Pauline ended up in the clinic. The day i met her i thought she was a mother of a patient as she asked me all these questions in which we realized i can relate a lot to her daughter. The day we met i could also immediately see my moms suffering, pain, and sadness in her eyes and i have promised myself no matter what, i will fight for my life no matter what it takes. Again there was a reason for this short traveled journey which i tend to get very tired of. My sister's friends mom must be in so much pain after loosing her only son. After seeing this painting he painted before he passed, posted by his mother on Facebook, i decided to write a in-memory-of poem. I am sorry for the state I left the world in mum
I know you are hurting because I was your only son I am sorry that you had to find out that way With only a letter, with all I could say I’m sorry that you had to find me like that That the silence in my room was what drew you in in fact I know it must have been hard when you realized I was gone That when the wind came howling through my window you had to look down My blood surrounding me, on the streets of town. The sirens, the people and all the commotion The blood, the faces, "you see" -GOING- seemed like the only potion I know you might never understand But I want you to know, although invisible, I will always be holding your hand I am sorry mom that it had to end this way But I am finally at rest, and more that okay They say in order to sail you must have the courage to loose sight of the shore I just couldn’t hold on to drowning anymore And as I stood on the edge of that deck I knew my life was a unfixable wreck The sun in my face The shadows behind my back That’s where all the monsters usually like to attack I have heard people say “destroy what destroys you right” But what if the thing destroying you is yourself, and you can no longer put up a fight. I was broken. Crippled crying inside. Behind a big smile and my music is the only place I found comfort to hide. But I am finally at peace and no longer in pain And you should know you are never to blame How could you even comprehend this unexpected event? That I had decided to stop paying god’s rent. You did all you could by giving me all your love Trying to make me forget all life's stuff Just know I am smiling, filled with laughter and light Inside I am shinning so bright I know it wasn’t my time to leave yet And you are sitting with regret I am sorry mom for leaving you all alone But just know that god has forgiven me, and I have sat besides his thrown I am happy. I am free. I can now finally be. So just remember that even though you cannot see me I am there. And I am sitting beside you every time you busy with your prayer. Friday, October 10, 2014
You are reading from the book Touchstones "The last of the human freedoms is to choose one's attitudes." —Victor Frankl When we stand and look at a mountain, it looks awesome, majestic, and perhaps intimidating. To climb the mountain we will need to select a route. Which approach will give us success? Which will provide a beautiful view? Which is safest? What are the rewards and trade offs among the paths available? In our lives, we usually cannot choose the mountains that face us, but we can choose the best paths to approach them. One path may be a very negative attitude. It may feel safe like a narrow, protected passageway. It is predictable, but it keeps us cut off from others. Another path may be filled with too many self-indulgent pleasures and never progress in any direction. Another path may be hard and include some risks, but it allows us to be in contact with others and to appreciate the beauty along the way. When we make positive choices about our attitudes, although the mountain is challenging, we are liberated to become the kind of men we're meant to be. Today, I will choose friendly attitudes toward myself that will help me on my journey. From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of the publisher. She sits there quietly, smoke in hand, flame held close to the tobacco, after it is lit she inhales….exhales….the smoke escapes and disappears as it touches the air every time, but she herself is up in flames on the inside. Some do ecstasy, others drown themselves in music, but she sits there, in her own thoughts…she has tried every escape…but she always ends up being trapped all over again.
22. and nothing to show for it. nothing. no one. she is all alone in this world. and as the traffic rushes past her, as people are going on with their lives, they are all just blurred images passing her by ….everyone is walking forward, moving on with their lives. whilst she runs in the opposite direction with fear written all over her face….no one notices her or her pain. her silent cry for help. 22 and nothing to show for it. Its as though she has not even been born because her life has left no mark. She is invisible. She has no one. no one. Every day she sits at home alone….playing tug and war. Should she just try one more time? Maybe this time something extraordinary will happen?. but. it doesn't. back to square one. one step forward ends up being 10 steps back. She sits there quietly, smoke in hand, flame held close to the tobacco, after it is lit she inhales….exhales….the smoke escapes and disappears as it touches the air every time, but she herself is up in flames on the inside. Soon the explosion which awaits her inside will leave something. at last something, even if its a black patch on the grass, a crack in the pavement, a footprint on the sand.. She was here. unnoticed. Stuck. Alone. After all.... her story ends with ashes to dust. So i would like to start something interactive on my blog. You anonymously send me a message on weebly or email
[email protected] May it be something you struggling with, something you have overcome, something you are grateful for, anything you feel you need to share that you cannot easily and openly share with others. It will remain anonymous but people will be able to comment and offer you some hope and guidance. We as a community of people that have our struggles, but choose to overcome and become victors every single day need to stick together and be there for one another. However, sometimes we stuck, we feel we are drowning and i would like to create something on this blog to remind you that you not alone. NOONE is alone in their struggles!!! PLEASE: send me a message send me a email or i am going to start a forum called "Not alone" at the top and i am praying that you would be brave enough to share your stories. This blog is here to inspire and help, but what if we started coming together. Two heads are better than three. Three better than four. Thank you I am sure many of you will agree, these days our generation is finding it increasing difficult to know what they want to do with their lives. I then beg to question, "will some of us ever know what we really want to do!!!" Some of you are fortunate enough to figure it all out at a early stage, pursue and be happy in with what you do. For others like me, we are lost, forever trying to just figure out our passions, purpose, and with a bit of rationalization...."what is it we want to do with our lives?" In grade 10 i was set on the idea that i wanted to be an architect. People had put ideas in my head of how the profession would be, some ideas accurate/ others not. After a long process of applying to study, i got in and pursued architecture. I must say i did complain a lot about it to my mom, it turned out to be a lot different as to what i thought. None the less i had my eyes set on getting my degree and perseverance had luckily always been a very good quality of mine. After 2 years i had a mental break down, got sucked in by this horrible disease known as depression, and lost all sense of purpose and passion. There was no point to life anymore. Why would i then want to do anything if in my mind i was not planning on living very long? Its been a rough journey, 3 years EXACT from that first break-down, and as i am starting to heal, even though i still struggle with having a sense of purpose and passion, i still cannot reach a conclusion as to what i want to do with my life. Before i was diagnosed with clinical depression, i knew life was about finding a job, being secure, making money so that i wouldn't have to just "survive", AND I KNEW that even though what i chose to do would perhaps not make me very happy, i had the skills to persevere and would have to just "DEAL WITH IT." My journey has completely changed my perspective. NOW i know, i want to find something that will make me happy. I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY AND EXCITED TO WAKE UP EVVVVVERY MORNING AND KNOW "YESSSSS!" today is going to be a great day. I LOVE WHAT I DO! Yes with every purpose or job comes the bad and the good, i have accepted that not every day will be a happy day, but as i said my perspective now has changed so much as to 8 years ago. However, if you want to be happy, you cannot ignore the financial implications of what you choose to pursue.You might love what you do but earn so little that the financial struggle ends up making you miserable. You might choose a job which is "okay", not really feeding the soul", but you know you will have money and will be able to lead a very comfortable life. So how will we ever know what we want to be, pursue, do with our lives if there is all these things we have to take into consideration?? I do not know. in fact i have no answers. However, i recently came across this video. It touched me very deeply as i even ended up with tears in my eyes. Let me know what you think!? She's so beautiful
yet so sad Always saying no one will ever love her. and yet when somebody tells her that they love her she runs and hides silly girl, they love you YOU JUST DON'T LOVE YOURSELF! This is a amazing book. I have read it 5 times already and i am on my 6th. As stated: bitch means simply “Bitch (noun): A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.” During the course of the book there are a 100 attraction principles and i thought i would share some with you. Some made me think, others put things into great perspective, others i have practiced and THEY WORK, and some are needed as a reminder during almost every relationship, or just before it becomes something more. ENJOY! 1. Anything a person chases in life runs away. 2. A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her. 3. If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it. 4. The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him. 5. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom. 6.A bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then..he sets out to trap her in his. 7.He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner. 8. If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take him time to appreciate who she is. 9. Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it. 10. When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything. 11. Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact. 12. Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery. 13. Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves. 14. A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life. 15. You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.” 16. The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself. 17. The relationship may not be right for you if you find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless. 18. When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention. 19. A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you. 20. When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don’t nag, he deals with the problem. 21. Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun. 22. Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he’ll pay even less attention to your feelings. 23. When a man falls in love, suddenly he’ll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He’ll do things for this woman he wouldn’t have done for anyone else. 24. The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be. 25. If you make it too obvious that you’re excited to get something, some people will be tempted to dangle a carrot in front of your face. 26. If he doesn’t give you a time, you don’t have a date. 27. A man feels he’s won, or conqured a woman, when she eats out of the palm of his hand. At which point, he begins to get bored. 28. A “yes” woman who gives too much sends the impression that she belives in the man more than she believes in herself. Men view this as weakness not kindness. 29. Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them. 30. He simply won’t respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him. |
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