Combat negative self talk
“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
― Louise L. Hay, You Can Heal Your Life
According to author David D. Burns of Feeling Good “Your sense of worthlessness is your ongoing criticism. This takes the form of an upsetting internal conversation in which you constantly persecute yourself in a harsh, unrealistic manner. “
"Most people don’t realize it, but as we go about our daily lives we are constantly thinking about and interpreting the situations we find ourselves in. It’s as though we have an internal voice inside our head that determines how we perceive every situation. Psychologists call this inner voice ‘self-talk‘, and it includes our conscious thoughts as well as our unconscious assumptions or beliefs."
(http://psychcentral.com/lib/challenging-negative-self-talk/)
This inner voice can be your best friend or your worst enemy. If it becomes our worst enemy always telling us negative things, how exhausting. This voice plants a seed, and without us noticing if we keep on thinking and telling ourselves the same negative things over and over again, we are watering that seed and eventually we have created our own little "negative" garden. We need the poison of "positive self-talk" to destroy this garden and give birth to a new seed, a new garden. This is however not easy.
You are in your heart what you think.
Your life will go in the direction of your dominant thoughts.
Your emotions are the result of your thinking.
How you feel is harvesting from how you think.
Where do you harvest your thinking from? YOUR FOCUS.
Whatever you focus on the most is what you give strength to.
What you do the most is your focus.
What you are exposed to most of the time is your focus.
What you are exposed to is what you thinking.
Your dominant thoughts is the direction in which your life is heading.
The way you think gives power to how you feel.
If you thinking depression, you will be depressed.
Stop hanging around things that make you feel that way.
Your actions are born out of the way you think.
Which stem from your emotional decisions.
Actions then lead to habits.
You form the habit, but eventually the habit forms you.
You are in a cycle that was created by those actions,
that came from those emotional decisions,
that came form those bad emotions
that came from that wrong way of thinking
that came from that wrong FOCUS.
According to Kristin Neff author of Self Compassion Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind ; “ The best way to counteract self-criticism is to understand it, have compassion for it, and then replace it with a kinder response. “
We have a inner critic, but the good news is that we have a ‘inner soother’. Often we can’t stop these thoughts however, we have the power to both encourage and believe in them or NOT (do the opposite).
Attached:
- An exercise out of the book of Kristen Neff
- An valuable exercise out of the book by David D. Burns- a tool that can be used on a regular basis ( The "Tripple collumn" technique)
- Verbal techniques that you can use when you self-criticize (out of the book by David D. Burns)
- A inspirational video
Buddha says, “What you think you become”
I strongly believe in this quote and there is so much wisdom behind this.
When you hear this, what do you think? What does this statement mean to you?
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